Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Wanting to Know you Wens.

i just finished reading "One Day" (which i loved) and the label, the one that got away came to mind.

we all have them... maybe you've just experienced that heart-ache. maybe for you it was years ago but they're there... this blurred vision of another life.


it's brave to admit it out loud. even kind of liberating, to admit that was then and that now (or someday) you'll be a better person for what you went through.

so a simple question today that will take a bit of courage...


what was the name of the one that got away? 


that simple. just a first name. you can add more if you want, but i think it will be interesting just to see the different names of those that slipped out of our grasp, whether it was mutual or we did the leaving or they left us. 

here goes... Chris.


but if i'm being really honest, my husband. my husband was almost the one that got away.

31 comments:

Phoenix Peacock said...

The two that I never dated but should have: Keith and Eric.

Nicole LeLacheur said...

My boyfriend of three years, the one I thought had gotten away but stuck around, and I love him for it...Ryan.

Fritzi Marie said...

Chris...I did the leaving but he was the only other man I loved. I will say this, I'm happy I have my Daniel. I love him so much more.

hugs,
Fritzi Marie

Erin said...

Mine is named Chris, too.

Jaimie said...

His name....Gene. My ex husband. I went through a very dark period in my life when my younger brother died and I pushed away a lot of people who cared about me. Including him. But like you, I believe in God's plan. And even though I am happier than I have been, I still think about the one that got away.

erin elder said...

Mine is slightly different... he is a friend, and will probably always be a friend. i always wondered if there could be more... but never pursued it. he found a nice girl and settled down, and here i am, still waiting.

Michael.

Claire Kiefer said...

I wish this were simpler for me. My instinct is to say Alex. He's the one I loved the most, I think. But ultimately, we broke up for a reason, you know?

I could also say Chad. Kind of a different story, too, but same principle: in another life, we could have been very happy.

Erin said...

Ben. We only dated for a couple months, but I really thought I loved him. Now that I know what {true} love is, I say that old romance was just "puppy love," but love is love. Right? Anyway, in the long run, Ben really was a huge part of making me who I am today. And for that, I've been able to give much more of myself to my REAL prince charming, my husband. ♥

sheba said...

honestly, i thought at one point i would have to let emil go, so he was *almost* the one that got away. but here we are today. <3

Erin {pughs' news} said...

Brandon. I wrote to you about him, didn't I?

Itchin' Stitchin' said...

Didn't have very many "serious" relationships since my husband and I met in high school. But there was this one guy in college, Brian, that I wish I dated. My husband I weren't dating yet.

katy said...

never met someone I was so attracted to mentally, physically, emaotionally. And yet....


Justin.

Claudia said...

oscar...just wasn't the one for me

Courtney said...

Rigo ... He left me, to move back to TX. The last time I saw him, when we said our good-byes, we hugged so tight and for so long .. I always thought to myself, I should have just never let go. If I hadn't let go, he wouldn't have left. Although I know in my head that's not true or possible or rational, that's what my heart said. Even after he moved, he called me every night, until of course the time came, when he had to move on and he met someone else. That was the hardest phone call of my life.

Carly Beth said...

Matt...the out of towner mystery guy in college.

Leesh said...

I don't know if I have a name for the one that got away but I do have a couple of what ifs. Is that the same thing?

April said...

Daegan. He loved me when I didn't love myself.

Gracie said...

Jason...he's almost the one that got away because if I didn't take the chance we might not have gotten together or married. I should write to you about it one day. x

Rhianne said...

not the one that got away but the one that never was: Steve

nothing ever happened, but there was just a flash of how our lives could be if we weren't in the positions we were in at the time... a very bizarre feeling

Claire said...

i never dated before my hubbie. sometimes i wonder.if i had, maybe i would have a different life now? but it could never be as good as what we have .x

Stephanie said...

Scott.

He was crazy about me.
He was crazy about Gage.
We went out a few times...
about 6 months after Gage's dad and I broke up for good.
but, I just wasn't ready for anything serious.
I blew him off.

Buuuut, yeah....I still wonder,
What If.....

Medical Librarian said...

Greg...Friends, always, but probably could have been so much more.

TiffanyDRoe said...

So many with a Chris in the past...I am seeing a trend here.

Mine was also a Chris, I wrote about him for you once. Do you remember that Mickey?

He broke my heart so many times over, and yet I went back to him so often.

It was always him that was doing the leaving, but this last time it was my turn. I was supposed to go see him for his birthday, but I ended up with a date with an amazing man. I called and told him I had to choose my destiny and it wasn't and couldn't be him.

Turns out I was right about the destiny part...that was my first date with Dusty, now my wonderful husband, best friend, and father of my sweet little boy.

Life couldn't be any better.

Cindy said...

Charlie

Sarah said...

Josh. High school love with a sad ending. Oh well. That's life and I'm about to marry an amazing man.

Marisa said...

Michael - The one that to this day, when I think of him... makes my stomach flip flop. so many reasons why we couldn't be...

Lauryn said...

If you had asked me six months ago I would have said Matt, but I'm moving beyond that feeling because I know now more than ever that there were important reasons for us going our separate ways. I wish everyone could have that feeling!

I love what you said at the end of this post. It got me thinking...

Maybe we have to have the one that got away to teach us not to let that happen again when we've found the right one for us.

J. said...

Al (short for Alfred, which still makes me giggle.)
and then maybe, on a day when I'm feeling especially nostalgic, I'd say Michael.

Karina said...

I could say the name but.... his ex is a reader of yours!!!!

Stina G said...

Ryan.
And Thomas.
There are always reasons, oh course.
I am so happy with where I am now and who I'm with :)
Your collage is so beautiful and perfect.

cominghomesoon said...

mmmm, this is a toughie! I dont have one that got away as such. I do have a guy who I split with after 3 years because I didn't love him. He was such a lovely guy, sweet, genuine and I broke his heart. I always wonder what he is doing and where he is now. Hoping he is happy. I see his profile on fb sometimes and always want to mail him and ask...but I never think its right. What do you think, would you??

Louise xo

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